Walking on eggshells
Am I the problem in my relationship?
14 questions about how your arguments really go: who starts, who makes up first, where the topic ends up. An honest answer either way, calculated in your browser.
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Walking on eggshells
You pick your words in advance to keep the evening calm, and you are no longer sure who is right. How ordinary fights differ from a repeating pattern, and where to find support.
Articles in this topic
Am I the problem in my relationship: a straight way to check, whichever answer you get
Every fight ends with you wondering if it's you. A fair way to check whether you're the problem in your relationship, and what to do with the answer.
My girlfriend keeps bringing up the past: why old mistakes come back and how to close them
Every fight brings back the same old mistake. Why your girlfriend keeps bringing up the past, when it's unfinished business, and how to close it.
My girlfriend says I'm gaslighting her: how to check what's happening, including if she's right
Your memories of the same week don't match, and now she's using a heavy word. How to tell if she's right, if it's two faulty memories, or something else.
I feel like I'm going crazy in my relationship: four reasons your memory stops feeling reliable
You remember a conversation one way, she remembers it another, again. Four reasons you feel like you're going crazy, and how to steady yourself.
My wife blames me for everything: four ways it happens and what each one needs
Late bills, her bad day, the school form all land on you. Four reasons a wife blames her husband for everything, including the one where she has a point.
My wife calls me a narcissist: what she may be describing and how to check it honestly
The word is a label. Behind it there's usually a list of things you do. How to find out what she means, and what to do if she's partly right.
My girlfriend turns everything around on me: how the switch works and how to get back to the point
You raised one issue and ended up defending yourself. How an argument gets turned around, when she's right to turn it, and what to say instead.
Walking on eggshells around your girlfriend: what the habit is telling you
You plan sentences and check her mood before you speak. What walking on eggshells around your girlfriend or wife usually means, and what to change first.
Why am I always the one apologizing in my relationship: what the habit costs and how to change it
You say sorry first, even when you're not sure what for. Why you're always the one apologizing, when that's fair, and what to say instead.
Why does my wife belittle me in front of others: where a joke ends and what to say
A joke at your expense at dinner, a correction in front of friends. Why a wife belittles her husband in public, and how to raise it without a scene.