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Am I the problem in my relationship? A 14-question quiz

You rewrite a text three times just to say you’ll be home late. If that sounds familiar, these 14 questions are for you. They’re about what actually happens: who starts the conversation, who makes up first, where the topic ends up. The quiz won’t decide who’s right. Answer for the last two or three months.

A kitchen in grey light: he stands with his back to us, she sits sideways, turned away, arms crossed
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Question 1 of 14

You need to tell her something uncomfortable. What happens before you say it?

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At the end you get one of 6 results

  • Your hard conversations mostly go off the rails on your side
  • Clinch
  • Parallel lives
  • One-sided fights
  • Quiet mode
  • Not set yet

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This is not a diagnosis. Our articles and quizzes describe what happens between people and do not assess anyone’s mental or physical health. They are not a substitute for professional advice.