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Hot and cold: he pulls away, then comes back on his own

Your answers describe a repeating cycle: things get close, he pulls back, then he comes back on his own. The key detail is that he returns without you reaching out. That sets your situation apart from one where someone is simply being kept on the back burner. Going by the facts, this looks more like a rhythm than lost interest: after closeness, he needs some distance.

The bad news: patience and explanations don’t break this cycle. The good news: you can affect how big the swings get, and reacting while he’s pulling away almost always goes worse than not reacting. The costliest move here is chasing him in the first days of the silence. That’s usually what makes it last longer.

This is not a diagnosis. The quiz describes interaction patterns in a relationship and does not assess anyone’s mental health.

This is not a diagnosis. Our articles and quizzes describe what happens between people and do not assess anyone’s mental or physical health. They are not a substitute for professional advice.